The Big Question

Who am I?

The big question – yep, I asked it…

At 38, 4 kids, the loss of a baby, a 15-year marriage that ended in divorce, a car accident that took what little life I had left and completely flipped me upside down, I feel like have been through enough changes in my life to ask the big question. Don’t take this the wrong way – I am not complaining I am simply stating the truth. I mean seriously, does anyone really know the answer to this question or is everyone like me, taking each moment at a time, trying to learn and grow from each obstacle put in one’s path?

I feel like a salmon trying to swim upstream against the raging waters and forces of nature. A friend once referred to me as a Honey Badger – then showed me the video of 4 or 5 Lions trying to tear the little guy apart but they couldn’t get their teeth through its skin. They finally gave up and the Honey Badger went on his merry little way.

To answer the first portion of this question is pretty easy – Hi, my name is Tiffany, I’m a daughter, a sister, a mom of 4. I am an office manager at a fencing company, and I’m also a business owner (Tip Central) on the side. I enjoy reading and running. What I am talking about is the clarity in which my existence makes sense and I am doing the things that make me happy in my life.

Another can of worms….

I’m happy, I just want pure fulfillment in my life!

I have experienced devastation in my life, heartbreak and sadness – isn’t it time for me to have complete peace and know exactly who I am, what I like and what I want. Because, I am so not the person I was even 2 years ago. I want to embrace everything in life that makes me who I am and find new things to love!

So, over the next few months I am challenging myself to do just that. I want to do things I have never done before. I want to embrace the things that I have always desired to do, but never had the courage. I want to breakout, live fully, and embrace who I am!

What are some things that I know about me? I am honest and compassionate, I wear my heart on my sleeve which gets me in trouble sometimes, I am loyal to the bone. I work as hard as I can, then give a little more – 110% all the way! I struggle to surrender, especially when I believe in something. I love my life, even with all the lows, I wouldn’t trade it because it is mine. It has made me stronger. I laugh hard and loud, because to laugh is to heal the hurt that mocks me. I love endlessly – without shame. I choose to be happy, so that I can mock the pain that is hidden deep within me.

Life doesn’t have to make sense – we just have to make the best of it! Like a wildflower standing in the desert, it found a way to survive. I am a survivor. I will push, climb, tackle… whatever it takes! #NeverGiveUp


The Ride Towards Home

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Cincy Bound

Recently I took a trip to Cincinnati…..

I had to check in with my doctor’s from the accident I was in. As the airplane ascended and I began to look out at the landscape below, I was amazed at what I saw. I haven’t flown in awhile, and you can tell I don’t fly very often, however, I was amazed at God’s creation below me. I began to think about the innocence that I still have when flying and I wondered how many people have lost that feeling of satisfaction when looking below. As we passed over the mountains I found myself trying to find the different roads and paths that have been etched out right before my eyes. 

Then we began to ascend above the clouds… 

So, if you haven’t been in an airplane for awhile or ever, you can appreciate how amazing it is to be close to the clouds. I mean, when you look up from the ground, they are so far away they kind of just look like fluffy pillows that are in the shape of an animal. I love the clouds! From the ground, I am not as fascinated but to fly above them is a totally different experience. They look so soft and fluffy and they run for what seems like

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miles. You have a section that looks like waves from the ocean and others that look like a pile of cotton. It’s almost as though you can twist your fingers in the cloud and make funny hairstyles like on trolls. My favorite are the wave like clouds, where you can imagine yourself getting lost in the white mass of softness. To look out into the sea of white fluffy clouds always seems to remind me of how amazing God is. He made this! All of this! And he gets to see this view anytime he likes.



In all this amazement – I was so excited about getting back to Cincinnati. And there was snow! 

Coming from North Carolina, I was so excited when we started to descend from the clouds and you could see the beautiful white cold stuff laying on the ground. Just like the clouds, I imagined how satisfied God must be when he looks at his creation in this way. I can only begin to imagine what Heaven might look like.

Over the past few months I have spoken about the accident I was involved in last May, and man has it been crazy. But as all things come together for the glory of the Lord to those who love him – I am almost 100%. There are a few minor things going on with my left eye, but after all that’s happened in the past 8 months, I am able to start my life again! 

Remember that God is working – it’s just not always in our timing!

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Moment of Enlightenment

There are times throughout our lives when we struggle to know what are purpose is, why things happen to us and so on….

At this point in my life I have been searching for the true meaning of happiness, stability and complete contentment. All of these things combined can be difficult to find. At least all at once. Through trial and error you may experience 1 or 2 at a time, but just because you are happy does not mean that you are content with how your life is. As human beings and especially being a mom, sometimes it can be difficult to know who you are and where your place is outside of mommy-hood.  I have been a mom for 17 years, and there have been plenty of times where I have experienced happiness with my life along with stability, but lost in knowing my place for myself as a human being. We get so caught up in doing the daily things of what are kids need, we forget to take care of ourselves. To find peace and gratification in ourselves. It’s true that being a mom is amazing! But what happens when our kids grow up and we have put so much time and energy into raising our children, then suddenly realize that, individually, you no longer have an identity other than being so and so’s mom. Finding a balance can be difficult.

I do not claim to know it all, but I do try my best to inspire others and remind myself of why life is precious. My 17 year old has shown me that “Mommy” won’t be needed in the same way forever. He would rather hang out with friends then lame, old mom. That’s ok, we all go through that. A time where we try to find ourselves and show that we can do it on our own and family is just a back support.

But the question is….. How do we have happiness, contentment and stability?

I always thought that you could have all of these things by providing a warm, safe home for your family. But there was always something missing. Maybe some of you are better at this than I am, but I have had a roller-coaster ride as a parent. I have loved my children from the moment I found out I was pregnant with my 1st child. I remember rubbing my belly and making a promise, “I will love you forever and always take care of you”. As each new child came along, my heart grew bigger and bigger. I never knew that you could love 4 people the same amount, in different ways. They each brought new life to me. Happiness!

I was stable, I was happy, but I was not content….

It wasn’t until I had a stillborn a few years ago that I started to realize how fragile life is and I was living my life for children that would soon not need me as much and would one day leave me.

I was in shock…. Who am I?

It’s difficult to be selfish when you are a parent. Life revolves around your children because you want the best for them. You want them to be happy, stable and content in their lives. But how can we show them these things if we aren’t these things ourselves?

So the journey began to figure out how I was going to accomplish these things and prove to my children the importance of having all 3 of these things. 

I began to change my attitude, my views on life and those around me. I began to open my eyes to the world around me and think, “How can I ‘better‘, not only my life, but those around me as well?”. The key to happiness I found are the 3 main things that I have mentioned. Having these things are easier said than done sometimes. I began by looking at the people around me – are they happy, do they speak positively? If the people surrounding me are not happy and content with themselves, how are they influencing my life? So, I decided to start with speaking positively and being around people that added happiness to my life. I began to learn who I am, what my goals in life are (outside of mommy-hood), and having stability in myself.

See, we can have monetary stability such as: where we live, having the same people around us, working at a good job that provides money. But True Stability is when we are content in ourselves and how we view ourselves as individuals. It took me a while to figure that out. I remember as a child thinking, my kids won’t move around like I did because I want them to have stability. Yes, that is part of it, but what I’ve learned is that the sense of stability is not about where you are physically, it’s more about where your heart is. Internal stability last a lot longer and offers happiness because you become content in who you are and where your life is leading.

That’s why these 3 things are so important! Stability – Happiness – Contentment

I cannot tell you how to find these things for yourself, that is what your mission should be! Mine has been a long, (sometimes) hard lesson to learn. But, I found it! I have stability in knowing who I am, what I want, and how I want others to perceive me. I have found pure happiness in these things, and I am content in myself and where my life is leading. As a mom, these things help me to find a balance. When my 5 year old grows up, I will not be left wondering who I am, and what am I going to do now. My #1 goal is to be a good mom, to have memories with my children and help them grow into amazing individuals. But, you cannot forget about yourself!


Welcome 2019


It is the 1st day of the new year and I am so excited! I have been looking forward to the restart of a new year since May! The year 2018 was not kind to me. Yes, there have been other years that were bad. But this past year took almost everything from me. In May, I was in a car accident that totalled my car. A lady ran a red light because she wasn’t paying attention, hit my car, rolled over it and flew on top of another car that was stopped at the red light she just ran. Pretty crazy.

What have I learned to tell people?

Don’t text and drive! Pay attention!

After the accident, I found out that I had a severe concussion, frontal lobe damage and severe damage to the muscles in my eyes. The result was me always being very dizzy, nauseous and very confused all the time. I was unable to drive and work. The end result has been that I had to leave my comfy home in Ohio and move to North Carolina with my parents.

So, Goodbye 2018 and Hello 2019! 

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